The problem I highlighted in my previous post is that it seems like race does influence people's decision on whether or not to initiate a conversation with a woman (cat-calling not included). How is a woman supposed to get a boyfriend or husband when no one will even converse with her because society assumes that she has a particular personality and is by default ugly? It is a very depressing position to be in when it feels like the world hates you. I dislike the strong, black archetype, it is killing our collective image. Everyone is an individual and has their own obstacles to overcome, so a whole race of women cannot be given this title. Additionally, this epithet usually has a negative connotation that conjures up the image of a fat, loud, arrogant woman. The example you gave, showcases one aggressive woman with loose morals. I personally do not hit on guys and once I find out a man is in a relationship, I respect him as my peer/coworker/classmate, but I do not find him attractive as a potential partner. During my freshman year, I had a guy friend with whom I ate supper every night. My guy friend later connected with one of my female friends from high school. After winter break, my guy friend and the girl started dating. This guy and I had a laid-back friendship based on physical, inside jokes but once he started dating my friend, I kept my distance out of respect for my friend. I guess in this situation race and weight played a role. My guy friend is of Asian heritage and made comments about preferring light skin and his girlfriend is Hispanic and a size two. I can always restrict calories and exercise until I reach a size two, but I cannot change my skin color or hair texture. If deep down in your heart, you can say that race does not matter then, I will walk away from this forum with a renewed sense of hope.