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Female patient asked me if it was okay that she was naked under the sheets.
Got the RN with me in the room to chaperone.
Got the RN with me in the room to chaperone.
Jesus. How is it so common for patients to sexually harass doctors?
Female patient asked me if it was okay that she was naked under the sheets.
Got the RN with me in the room to chaperone.
No, she was truly naked. She was a good looking girl and my age, so all the more reason to have a chaperone in there. I didn't want anything to be perceived as rape or sexual harassment.
You mean, "I was sexually harassed at work."
You wanted to avoid the perception that you were sexually harassing a patient who was sexually harassing you. Irony?
In the end, my job would be on the line faster than a speeding bullet.
Ah, I think I assumed that this lady was there for a woman's annual, in which case, yeah, it totally makes sense to be naked (you're supposed to be in a gown, but it's just idiotic window dressing) under the sheets.
I'm a chick, and I always insist on a chaperone for anything genital related, man or woman. Usually my insisting matches up with institutional policy, sometimes it doesn't and I'm the oddball, but you never know.
There's a number of clinical situations that have forced me to my knees to examine some old dude's junk area for a mystery rash or something, and it always wigs me out. Not that I'm doing that, I have no problem with that, but I'm always thinking, "I'm a f*ing doctor dude, and yeah, as I see it, it's not glamorous, I'm proud to get in trenches and I'll wade elbow deep in your hemmorrhoid or what have you, and I have no problem getting on my knees to take care of business, but if this is just some bull**** ploy to get me on my knees for some weird pervert reason, I'm going to be really pissed." This has come up for me because a few times I really didn't know if they were for real, it's always like the demented pervert guy who's grabbing at the nurses and now has a rash on his bum-bum no one can really get a good look at, but I'm the doc, so if anyone has to try to lay eyes on it, it's me. So with the above in my head, I do actually say, "So I hear you have a ____ on your ____. I'm going to need to take a look." Then I get into position, which is usually something ridiculous. "Now, I have no problems taking a look and making sure you're OK, I want to help you with this, but, you're serious, right? You're not just playing a joke on me, are you? Because if you are, I'm going to be really upset with you. I'm trusting you." I still don't know if they're ****ing with me until I look, and so far it's all been real. But I'm giving them a chance to reconsider if they're ****ing with me. His fake sx either need to be believable on negative physical exam, or the rash he told me was there better be there.
But seriously, the day it's just because some old ****er wanted to get me down on my knees touching his junk, I'm going to walk out and fire that patient.
In this situation I like to have the patient get in stirrups.
Ah, I think I assumed that this lady was there for a woman's annual, in which case, yeah, it totally makes sense to be naked (you're supposed to be in a gown, but it's just idiotic window dressing) under the sheets.
I'm a chick, and I always insist on a chaperone for anything genital related, man or woman. Usually my insisting matches up with institutional policy, sometimes it doesn't and I'm the oddball, but you never know.
There's a number of clinical situations that have forced me to my knees to examine some old dude's junk area for a mystery rash or something, and it always wigs me out. Not that I'm doing that, I have no problem with that, but I'm always thinking, "I'm a f*ing doctor dude, and yeah, as I see it, it's not glamorous, I'm proud to get in trenches and I'll wade elbow deep in your hemmorrhoid or what have you, and I have no problem getting on my knees to take care of business, but if this is just some bull**** ploy to get me on my knees for some weird pervert reason, I'm going to be really pissed." This has come up for me because a few times I really didn't know if they were for real, it's always like the demented pervert guy who's grabbing at the nurses and now has a rash on his bum-bum no one can really get a good look at, but I'm the doc, so if anyone has to try to lay eyes on it, it's me. So with the above in my head, I do actually say, "So I hear you have a ____ on your ____. I'm going to need to take a look." Then I get into position, which is usually something ridiculous. "Now, I have no problems taking a look and making sure you're OK, I want to help you with this, but, you're serious, right? You're not just playing a joke on me, are you? Because if you are, I'm going to be really upset with you. I'm trusting you." I still don't know if they're ****ing with me until I look, and so far it's all been real. But I'm giving them a chance to reconsider if they're ****ing with me. His fake sx either need to be believable on negative physical exam, or the rash he told me was there better be there.
But seriously, the day it's just because some old ****er wanted to get me down on my knees touching his junk, I'm going to walk out and fire that patient.
This reminds me of a med student that took the saying "the only reason not to do a rectal exam is if they don't have a rectum or you don't have a finger" a little too far and was doing rectals (with guiaic testing) every morning on pre-rounds until the resident found out.This was a patient in the hospital. Routine exam in the AM to see how she was.
I don't do vaginal exams, I get the intern to do them. If they can't then I do them. There better be a goddamn good reason they can't.
This was a patient in the hospital. Routine exam in the AM to see how she was.
I don't do vaginal exams, I get the intern to do them. If they can't then I do them. There better be a goddamn good reason they can't.
This reminds me of a med student that took the saying "the only reason not to do a rectal exam is if they don't have a rectum or you don't have a finger" a little too far and was doing rectals (with guiaic testing) every morning on pre-rounds until the resident found out.
This reminds me of a med student that took the saying "the only reason not to do a rectal exam is if they don't have a rectum or you don't have a finger" a little too far and was doing rectals (with guiaic testing) every morning on pre-rounds until the resident found out.
plot twist: Styphon looks like Ryan GoslingI was seeing a young teenage patient for behavior issues as I resident. When I got up to leave, she got up, pinned me against the door frame, and grinded her pelvis against me until her mom yelled and pulled her off of me. I was so incredibly uncomfortable and embarrassed.
Come to think of it, I experienced the most sexual harassment from patients (both male and female) for a male in my residency. I think its my quiet demeanor, as I am not that good looking.
When i was a med student, many a year ago, I was on a fairly busy trauma service. We had essentially one night over 2 months where nothing significant came in, which was a miracle. Then about 3:30am the Chief Resident comes pounding on the door, obviously irritated. He says "High Priest..." (Well, he didn't call me that, but you get it) "You ever done an anoscopy??"
Of course, the socially acceptable answer is no.
"Well, you're going to do one tonight, get your $#!T"
So it turns out that a few hours prior, a repeat offender had come to the ER. She was a morbidly (375lbs) obese lady with significant medical problems (psyche and otherwise). She was well known for shoving things in her bum and then coming to the hospital to get them removed (Universal remote, a handful of silverware, what-have-you). This time she had put a fluorescent light bulb in her bum, and it had broken. So we had to check her out. The Chief was angry because of the hour, the break in a nearly perfect night, and due to the fact that he had removed the silverware and the remote on previous nights past.
So we go to the OR, we scope her. There's nothing to be found. She gets admitted. By the time we're out, it's time to round on our 20-something patient trauma service. We get to her room last. The chief says "High Priest, you come with me, you were in the OR. The rest of you wait here." He's obviously still a bit angry. We walk into the room, she's having breakfast and smiling until he opens with:
"Why'd you put glass in your @$$?"
She's staring, slack jawed.
"You know, in any other country in the world, if you put glass in your @$$ they would think "Well, you must have wanted it there," and they'd let you keep it. Only in America do we repeatedly take care of you so that you can stick more stuff up your @$$ and keep coming back. (He was born outside of the US). The next time you get the urge to stick something up your @$$, stick it in your vagina instead. You'll do less damage that way."
Then he heel spins, walks out, makes the "washing my hands" motion and says "Now she's OB/GYNs problem."
2 hours later she had stuck sharpened pencils in her vagina, and we transferred her to the GYN service.
Sounds like she needs a psychiatrist more than anything.
"Does not meet hold criteria. TY for this consult."
I went to a med school in my hometown. During my MS3 IM rotation, my uncle was admitted to surgery in that same hospital. So, being the dutiful and concerned nephew that I am, I stopped in to his room to check on him during the few minutes downtime I had. While I'm in his room, a surgery resident comes in and begins a post- op check. When I try to politely excuse myself, he goes "why don't you stay, I could use a second pair of hands". OK, no big deal so far. Then he decides to put in a foley, and asks if I had any experience doing that yet. I'm like, "not really..." He goes, "well now's a perfect time to learn!".... I'm like "uh, this is my uncle" - but he basically ignored that comment. I knew I was going to be doing surgery at that hospital a few months later and it was very likely that I would end up working with that resident, so I was very hesitant to refuse. So there I was holding my uncle's penis struggling to get a foley into his oddly shaped meatus (botched circumcision?) while he's screaming bloody murder.
Talk about awkward family gatherings...
I went to a med school in my hometown. During my MS3 IM rotation, my uncle was admitted to surgery in that same hospital. So, being the dutiful and concerned nephew that I am, I stopped in to his room to check on him during the few minutes downtime I had. While I'm in his room, a surgery resident comes in and begins a post- op check. When I try to politely excuse myself, he goes "why don't you stay, I could use a second pair of hands". OK, no big deal so far. Then he decides to put in a foley, and asks if I had any experience doing that yet. I'm like, "not really..." He goes, "well now's a perfect time to learn!".... I'm like "uh, this is my uncle" - but he basically ignored that comment. I knew I was going to be doing surgery at that hospital a few months later and it was very likely that I would end up working with that resident, so I was very hesitant to refuse. So there I was holding my uncle's penis struggling to get a foley into his oddly shaped meatus (botched circumcision?) while he's screaming bloody murder.
Talk about awkward family gatherings...
Would you mind if I were to steal that? .
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I found it on the internets, so feel free.
There's nothing that'll beat that pediatrician one....
I've a pretty reasonable second, but I can't tell it yet....
As me again after 1 July.Can you tell it now? Sorry for the necrobump, lol.
I once had a patient tell me that if we were on the street he would shoot me and take my shoes. I think it was meant as a compliment.
A patient once told me I was the most gorgeous doctor he'd ever known and said he wanted to take me dinner at the best restaurant in town.
But I was also in the process of writing to restart his home dose of narcotics (lots and lots of mg) so his motivation was suspect.
On a very similar thread- I had a pt's wife tell me she wanted to "shoot me and take my skin"
Alright, so this was during intern year. I'm on my ED month and working a night shift. All the other residents on for that night are EM. In comes a 450 lb spanish speaking woman c/o fever and lower abdominal pain. Clearly a pelvic exam is needed. The residents (unsurprisingly) vote that I should be the one to see this patient. I grab the translator phone and the nurse drops off the pelvic exam materials. Now I'm not a master of the pelvic exam by any stretch, but this was ridiculous. I was pushing aside so many different pieces of pannus that I didn't have enough hands to keep them all from falling back into place. Eventually, by using my elbows and clever positioning of the stool I was on, I was able to find an appropriate place to insert the speculum. After the speculum is in I start to open it, and immediately there is a heavy flow of purulent material onto the floor. When I say heavy flow, I mean it was like Satan's oatmeal. The smell was immediately overwhelming and easily ranks as the worst thing I have smelled in medicine (this includes comparison with the smell of a burned body and with florid gas gangrene from a bloater pulled from the river). My visceral response was to get the hell out of the room before the contents of my stomach could find their way to daylight. I immediately dropped the speculum and bolt out of the room without explaining anything to the patient. It did occur to me in the course of my mad sprint out that I had absolutely no clue where the ER bathrooms were. No time to ask. I did however know where some of the red biohazard trash bins were and I figured this qualified. After mentally preparing for my return to the room, I found the translator phone was still connected and the patient wanted to know why I ran out. "You're being admitted, I had to let them know urgently," I replied.
This is from my first rotation, we were the consulting family Med team in a psych hospital ( I know I should have been prepared for anything) I was getting a history from this very docile looking 7 year old girl and I asked if she had had sex before because it was one of the questions on the h&p form I had to fill out. She said yes. I asked her who with and she said boys from school and her cousins. I looked up the contact info on her chart and called her mom...
Me: Good morning ma'am I'm calling from Hospital X about your daughter Y-"
Patient's mother: "You mustn't leave her alone with any of the other children or let her go to the bathroom alone she's a chronic masturbator and very good at it she can orgasm very quick-"
Me:"....she said she's had sex before, do yo-"
Patient's mother: "You have to get her to tell the truth sometimes, you have to be firm. Did you explain to her what sex is? She forces her little sisters (ages 2 and 3) to masturbate with her and she gives them oral sex become she says she wants them to enjoy it with her, she puts her finger inside them and you know they're so little so it hurts I used to hear them crying at night..."
Needless to say, I needed a moment. I also had 2 male patients put their hands down their pants and ask me for a blowjob whilst stroking themselves.
~Tales from the psych ward
You asked a 7 year old if she was having sex?
Being a psych hospital doesn't justify the question. And 7 year olds don't know what sex is -- even if they said they had sex I'd have to ask them what they think that means.My attending asked us to. Again, it was a psychiatric hospital.
Being a psych hospital doesn't justify the question. And 7 year olds don't know what sex is -- even if they said they had sex I'd have to ask them what they think that means.
You could ask a 7 year old about abuse, and probably should no matter what sort of hospital you are in.
As me again after 1 July.
Yeah.Well.....it's the 5th now
Yeah.
So when I was a resident at a federal facility, there was a real hard @$$ colorectal surgeon. Pretty classical guy with regards to being a dick in the OR, super competitive. The kind of guy you want things to go wrong for, but at the same time he's a good surgeon, so you'd feel bad if they did.
And this federal facility - run by idiots, like most of them are.
So one day he comes to work, dark and early, and his office is locked as usual, only his key doesn't work. So he gets the master key from his manager, and that doesn't work. And he's gotta round and be in the OR, so he's getting hot.
So he goes to security to let them know they're all @$$holes, and that they need to let him in to his office immediately. But they tell him they can't.
So he asks why, and they tell him that they can't tell him why. He's gotta wait for the head of security to get in. So, of course, now he's right pissed, but there's nothing he can do. So he waits.
The head of security shows up and tells him that his computer, all his files, and his laptop have been confiscated pending an investigation.
An investigation of what?!
They can't say. But he can't be around patients until the investigation is over.
Now this guy, he's an @$$hole, but a pervert he is not. Beyond the fact that he wanted to have a career as a professional butthole surgeon.
So he goes to IT, who is busy taking apart his computers and transferring information to CID (military police/JAG). But they also won't tell him what it is they're looking for, because it's an ongoing investigation, and he might want to talk to JAG.
So he does, but JAG won't talk to him, other than to let him know that they'll contact him when they're ready to make a decision.
So now he's sweating. What could it be? Is he going to jail? Dies he need a lawyer? Is someone setting him up?
He works his way into the command suite where finally he gets someone to listen to him. All these surgeries he'll have to cancel, the clinics, the resident education, and he swears there's nothing bad on those devices.
So he goes back to JAG with the brass to find out if maybe they can clear this all up.
And JAG tells them the IT guys were scrubbing last night, and they came across some very questionable materials - illicit materials, in fact, on his machine. Real bad stuff. Definitely against hospital policy, and sad to see that a surgeon might be doing these kinds of things...
What kinds of things?
Saving pictures of @$$holes on his laptop. Tons of them.
Because he was giving presentations about diseases of the @$$. Because he was a colorectal surgeon. These were all linked to PPT slides, but he had made a folder of pictures of diseased anuses, and the IT guys had found it. And reported him as some kind of lowlife pervert.
Of course she did. Because that's ignit.One of the pediatric surgeons in my residency program got investigated for child porn for having images of children with various pathology in her possession. She was cleared as it was academic and not sexual but understandably found the interrogation very unsettling.
Yeah.
So when I was a resident at a federal facility, there was a real hard @$$ colorectal surgeon. Pretty classical guy with regards to being a dick in the OR, super competitive. The kind of guy you want things to go wrong for, but at the same time he's a good surgeon, so you'd feel bad if they did.
And this federal facility - run by idiots, like most of them are.
So one day he comes to work, dark and early, and his office is locked as usual, only his key doesn't work. So he gets the master key from his manager, and that doesn't work. And he's gotta round and be in the OR, so he's getting hot.
So he goes to security to let them know they're all @$$holes, and that they need to let him in to his office immediately. But they tell him they can't.
So he asks why, and they tell him that they can't tell him why. He's gotta wait for the head of security to get in. So, of course, now he's right pissed, but there's nothing he can do. So he waits.
The head of security shows up and tells him that his computer, all his files, and his laptop have been confiscated pending an investigation.
An investigation of what?!
They can't say. But he can't be around patients until the investigation is over.
Now this guy, he's an @$$hole, but a pervert he is not. Beyond the fact that he wanted to have a career as a professional butthole surgeon.
So he goes to IT, who is busy taking apart his computers and transferring information to CID (military police/JAG). But they also won't tell him what it is they're looking for, because it's an ongoing investigation, and he might want to talk to JAG.
So he does, but JAG won't talk to him, other than to let him know that they'll contact him when they're ready to make a decision.
So now he's sweating. What could it be? Is he going to jail? Dies he need a lawyer? Is someone setting him up?
He works his way into the command suite where finally he gets someone to listen to him. All these surgeries he'll have to cancel, the clinics, the resident education, and he swears there's nothing bad on those devices.
So he goes back to JAG with the brass to find out if maybe they can clear this all up.
And JAG tells them the IT guys were scrubbing last night, and they came across some very questionable materials - illicit materials, in fact, on his machine. Real bad stuff. Definitely against hospital policy, and sad to see that a surgeon might be doing these kinds of things...
What kinds of things?
Saving pictures of @$$holes on his laptop. Tons of them.
Because he was giving presentations about diseases of the @$$. Because he was a colorectal surgeon. These were all linked to PPT slides, but he had made a folder of pictures of diseased anuses, and the IT guys had found it. And reported him as some kind of lowlife pervert.
Safe to sayGreat story, and man those IT people must've been complete *****s?
Yeah.
So when I was a resident at a federal facility, there was a real hard @$$ colorectal surgeon. Pretty classical guy with regards to being a dick in the OR, super competitive. The kind of guy you want things to go wrong for, but at the same time he's a good surgeon, so you'd feel bad if they did.
And this federal facility - run by idiots, like most of them are.
So one day he comes to work, dark and early, and his office is locked as usual, only his key doesn't work. So he gets the master key from his manager, and that doesn't work. And he's gotta round and be in the OR, so he's getting hot.
So he goes to security to let them know they're all @$$holes, and that they need to let him in to his office immediately. But they tell him they can't.
So he asks why, and they tell him that they can't tell him why. He's gotta wait for the head of security to get in. So, of course, now he's right pissed, but there's nothing he can do. So he waits.
The head of security shows up and tells him that his computer, all his files, and his laptop have been confiscated pending an investigation.
An investigation of what?!
They can't say. But he can't be around patients until the investigation is over.
Now this guy, he's an @$$hole, but a pervert he is not. Beyond the fact that he wanted to have a career as a professional butthole surgeon.
So he goes to IT, who is busy taking apart his computers and transferring information to CID (military police/JAG). But they also won't tell him what it is they're looking for, because it's an ongoing investigation, and he might want to talk to JAG.
So he does, but JAG won't talk to him, other than to let him know that they'll contact him when they're ready to make a decision.
So now he's sweating. What could it be? Is he going to jail? Dies he need a lawyer? Is someone setting him up?
He works his way into the command suite where finally he gets someone to listen to him. All these surgeries he'll have to cancel, the clinics, the resident education, and he swears there's nothing bad on those devices.
So he goes back to JAG with the brass to find out if maybe they can clear this all up.
And JAG tells them the IT guys were scrubbing last night, and they came across some very questionable materials - illicit materials, in fact, on his machine. Real bad stuff. Definitely against hospital policy, and sad to see that a surgeon might be doing these kinds of things...
What kinds of things?
Saving pictures of @$$holes on his laptop. Tons of them.
Because he was giving presentations about diseases of the @$$. Because he was a colorectal surgeon. These were all linked to PPT slides, but he had made a folder of pictures of diseased anuses, and the IT guys had found it. And reported him as some kind of lowlife pervert.
Yeah.
So when I was a resident at a federal facility, there was a real hard @$$ colorectal surgeon. Pretty classical guy with regards to being a dick in the OR, super competitive. The kind of guy you want things to go wrong for, but at the same time he's a good surgeon, so you'd feel bad if they did.
And this federal facility - run by idiots, like most of them are.
So one day he comes to work, dark and early, and his office is locked as usual, only his key doesn't work. So he gets the master key from his manager, and that doesn't work. And he's gotta round and be in the OR, so he's getting hot.
So he goes to security to let them know they're all @$$holes, and that they need to let him in to his office immediately. But they tell him they can't.
So he asks why, and they tell him that they can't tell him why. He's gotta wait for the head of security to get in. So, of course, now he's right pissed, but there's nothing he can do. So he waits.
The head of security shows up and tells him that his computer, all his files, and his laptop have been confiscated pending an investigation.
An investigation of what?!
They can't say. But he can't be around patients until the investigation is over.
Now this guy, he's an @$$hole, but a pervert he is not. Beyond the fact that he wanted to have a career as a professional butthole surgeon.
So he goes to IT, who is busy taking apart his computers and transferring information to CID (military police/JAG). But they also won't tell him what it is they're looking for, because it's an ongoing investigation, and he might want to talk to JAG.
So he does, but JAG won't talk to him, other than to let him know that they'll contact him when they're ready to make a decision.
So now he's sweating. What could it be? Is he going to jail? Dies he need a lawyer? Is someone setting him up?
He works his way into the command suite where finally he gets someone to listen to him. All these surgeries he'll have to cancel, the clinics, the resident education, and he swears there's nothing bad on those devices.
So he goes back to JAG with the brass to find out if maybe they can clear this all up.
And JAG tells them the IT guys were scrubbing last night, and they came across some very questionable materials - illicit materials, in fact, on his machine. Real bad stuff. Definitely against hospital policy, and sad to see that a surgeon might be doing these kinds of things...
What kinds of things?
Saving pictures of @$$holes on his laptop. Tons of them.
Because he was giving presentations about diseases of the @$$. Because he was a colorectal surgeon. These were all linked to PPT slides, but he had made a folder of pictures of diseased anuses, and the IT guys had found it. And reported him as some kind of lowlife pervert.