I wish I knew how to be more easy going with his schedule. The week prior to an exam I often was frustrated with my SO for not being emotionally available, and I thought I could get him to talk with me by force. But I quickly realized that if I backed off during his most stressful periods, he was less frustrated with me afterwards and usually came around asking what he missed. Now, he's in step one studying, and my most important question is "is this a fight that is worth it" because if I even waver a bit when answering that, it's not important enough to pull him away. Obviously some things require his time, but mostly if I'm laid back our lives are way easier.