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It seems you're getting quite worked up over this discussion. Have you thought of maybe taking a break? You sound like someone who shouldn't be allowed anywhere near the medical sphere.
It seems you're getting quite worked up over this discussion. Have you thought of maybe taking a break? You sound like someone who shouldn't be allowed anywhere near the medical sphere.
So you advocate people buying you coffee! NiceUh huh. Well, I already matched JMO in Australia with ERAS good to go as well, so maybe I'll be your resident when you return from Japan or wherever. I like my coffee black and bitter.
So you advocate people buying you coffee! Nice
And we've made it to Burnett's law on page 2. Look Phloston, you give a lot of good advice, but you aren't perfect. Some of your advice is strange, some of it is flat out wrong. A large part of your PDF seems to be trying to teach human interaction, which shouldn't need to be taught, especially at this stage of someone's career. You can teach someone some basic rules to follow (wear a tie, cut your hair, be nice to all parts of the hospital team), but scripting conversation is a bit ridiculous. At some point, the way you interact with people is just who you are, and trying so incredibly hard to act different from yourself comes across as insincere and disingenuous. There are other parts of your PDF I disagree with as well (I agree with most of the disagreements posted in this thread for a start), but I have neither the time nor inclination to go through it piece by piece and break it down for you (realistically not for you, per se, but for other readers of this website). I simply want to add another dissenting opinion to the pile for future readers who may otherwise get caught up in the Phloston aura to their disadvantage.It seems you're getting quite worked up over this discussion. Have you thought of maybe taking a break? You sound like someone who shouldn't be allowed anywhere near the medical sphere.
Phloston, as far as I can tell over the internet, is a nice guy who really wants to help people and is articulate and verbose, but for some reason gives out a lot of bad advice with the good and has a hard time acknowledging that he might be wrong.
Yes, you've edited your post a million times. Sometimes apologetic. Then erasing your apologies and expressing anger instead. At least you've acknowledged that. Let's be civil here.He certainly hasn't been nice to me.
He's now digging up my old posts and leaving personally derogatory remarks: http://forums.studentdoctor.net/threads/img-with-a-medical-leave-of-absence-red-flag.1180277/
@Phloston, I'm not "gleeful." That implies I'm happy. I'm not. I think you could have a really bright future in medicine (or anything really), but perhaps your outright hostility in responding to honest criticism might hold you back (and to be fair, I have no idea what you're actually like in person).
Almost everybody who has disagreed with you has expressed gratitude for your help to others on SDN. But some of that help has been misguided, and there's an obligation to try and offer differing opinions for the benefit of our junior colleagues. That has nothing to do with you personally.
And you make a very fair point. None of us have offered a "manifesto" of our own. You took a crack at it and put yourself out there. That takes guts. But that also takes (hopefully graceful) receptivity to feedback on an open forum of your peers.
Yes, I know I've edited this post a million times. I'm trying to be as collegial and charitable as I can despite the outrage I feel at the personal remarks you made about me on other subforums.
@Hangry said things more eloquently than I ever could. Everyone can come to their own conclusion. I'm 100% done with this thread. Unwatched.
Lol yeah I agree, I wasn't advocating using scripted dialogue from some document found on an Internet forum (although that's probably a good idea for the seemingly large % of med students whose only face-to-face human interaction before M3 was their med school interview, but that's none of my business). It seemed like you were saying it's weak to open a conversation with an apology. I was pointing out that it's a pretty standard interaction, or should be at least IMO, but I suppose that also depends on regional/colloquial standards.Nobody disagrees with the obvious and commonsensical points... and it's always worth affirming what should be obvious and commonsensical... but some of it is excessively self-effacing.
Did you read the document? There are 5+ graded examples for introductory, mid-point, and concluding statements (that's 5+ for each) with timing and tone of voice to ask for an observation chart. Here's the suggested template:
Opening: “I’m sorry to bother you, I know you’re busy. Do you know where the chart is for bed 21?”
Midpoint: "Yeah, I really appreciate it."
Closing: “You’re a champion. Thanks. I really appreciate your time. Sorry to bother you.”
Have you ever been busy on the wards (as lots of nurses are)? Could you imagine if a medical student went through this rigamarole to ask for an obs chart? And "You're a champion"? For getting an obs chart? How condescending does that sound? Especially from a medical student.
A pleasant 5 minute coffee break does 1000x more for you in terms of building good-will and conveying kindness.
Seriously, if you and a nurse are both doing scut work, just ask them if they did anything fun last weekend. Shoot the **** for a few minutes. It's fun; it's light; it's other-centered; and it's being a normal human being. That's true respect. Then ask away for whatever whenever: "Sorry, do you know where X is? Got it. Thank you." Get on with it.
This is a well-written reflection on third year, but I would definitely take it with a grain of salt ( like most other things found on the web).
1.) I have never seen a med student offer to buy coffee for the residents or attendings, much less correct the intern's coffee order (that actually came across as somewhat arrogant to me). Sure, people bring food every now and then, but it's shared with everyone. If I saw an M3 bringing coffee twice a week to the residents, I would think that they were a serious brown-noser.
2.) saying sorry all of the time--you really can overdo this. I'm one of those people who does this a lot--not on purpose, but because I am often in the way and feel guilty about it--and I've actually a scrub nurse get ticked off by it and pull me aside to tell me that I needed to be more assertive in the OR. So no, it does not endear you to all and sundry to to be overly obsequious. Being polite, saying thank you and excuse me are sufficient; there's no need to be theatrical about it.
It's also pretty much given in third year that students are expected to pre-round before the team; I've never heard of a student showing up just in time for rounds--they would most likely fail by default. That's somewhat common sense.
I agree with the points about enthusiasm and willingness to go the extra mile-- these things are expected of students, and are considered the bare miminum expected. But don't expect to get honors by just being an over-eager, grinning scut monkey. I went into third year thinking that this was the most important factor in evals, and was slammed by my family rotation grades. The most important thing in third year grades is the ability to give a focused patient presentation. When I started, I would have a patient coming in for a HTN checkup, and would be doing a full ROS. Surprisingly, my attending was annoyed when I uncovered knee pain in the patient and mentioned it in the presentation, because that's not what the patient was there for. Conversely, I would have a patient with a cough and sore throat, and somehow forget to ask about fever. Yeah, I was--and probably still am--a pretty stupid med student. These are the things that cost you in the evals, though, not whether or not you were willing to buy coffee for your residents.
Apologies if this comes off as an angry rant-- it's just that I found myself in trouble following some of the things you are recommending.
Think of clinical propriety like every day propriety on overdrive. Things you do on the street that are normal can be considered rude in the hospital. If you're asking someone for directions and wave him or her down and say, "Excuse me, do you know where x is?" There's no issue. But the baseline is a lot higher in a healthcare setting, and saying sorry before and after shows you're unquestionably putting the person in front of you first.
If you do end up attending a medical school, you'll interact with a lot of staff just fine and won't ever know something comes off rude until you look back and see your own behavior changing. And if you asked me before I started med school I certainly would have said I got on well with people. The character you expect out of your doctor though doesn't have wiggle room to be borderline, which is why a lot of these interactive mechanisms can seem excessive.
Hope that helps,
Where in the US does this scenario happen routinely? Why is the medical student idle after rounds? Aren't there notes to write? Patients to admit (or at least H&P)? Investigations to chase? Consults to see? Didactics to attend? Team-scut to help with? Seeing a medical student stand idle is probably more concerning, if only because they didn't at least have the decency or common sense to help or learn from their assigned team.
Maybe you've only worked in an Australian context, where medical students "float" a bit more? (And nurses don't do cannulas.) Or maybe my only experience in America is from Sub-I's where everybody was really freakin' busy (me and the 3rd years under me included)?
But fair enough, I generally believe that you should do whatever it takes for your team. So if my team needed bloods, cannulas, IDCs, patients transported, whatever; hell yeah. Let's do it. That's what it means to work in a team. But leaving my team? Unthinkable. (Unless the random intern were desperate, and I let my senior resident know.)
Buying my intern coffee twice a week? Very odd. (And no @Phloston, the consensus above is that it's not even close to 50/50.) Volunteering my colleagues for extra work as a sign of collegiality? That merits a 12-gauge cannula shanking. Answering a patient-related question with "Well you know I’m not allowed to answer up the hierarchy." Really bizarre.
None of this is meant personally. No ad hominems. It's only directed at your self-proclaimed "Pearls of Wisdom." You're the one offering advice. And a few of your colleagues (and seniors) are pushing back, because some of it is really bad advice. Preclinicals should know what constitutes inappropriate behaviour, and some of the behaviour you're endorsing is inappropriate.
I agree with some of what you wrote. Never answer somebody else's pimp question. Keep your cool. Be helpful. Don't rely on others for validation. This advice is so general and amiable that it would be hard for anybody to disagree with it, though I suppose some forget the obvious.
Thank you so much for these valuable guidelines. I have been accepted as a research trainee and start end of this month. I am a FMG, any advise related to to working as a research trainee?After finishing med school I randomly started writing about my experiences. I was doing it at first as just a self-reflective/-therapy exercise, and then found myself writing for many days at a time. In the end, I developed this document.
Colloquially, you could think of this as a version of a 'Dos and Don'ts of clinical rotations" PDF. But I haven't formally organized it that way.
I hope you find this even minimally helpful,
~Phloston
After finishing med school I randomly started writing about my experiences. I was doing it at first as just a self-reflective/-therapy exercise, and then found myself writing for many days at a time. In the end, I developed this document.
Colloquially, you could think of this as a version of a 'Dos and Don'ts of clinical rotations" PDF. But I haven't formally organized it that way.
I hope you find this even minimally helpful,
~Phloston
Just wanted to say this was a very fun read! I was skimming SDN after I got home from work to learn a bit about clinical rotations but somehow it ended up with me and my little brother reading through this whole thing together. He's not even close to the premed track, he's still in high school but we were glued to the screen because your personal experience was so interesting and well written.
Thank you for sharing this with us !
3. The coffee stuff has been litigated above and goes without saying.
This guide has lots of good, useful information, particularly with respect to clinical medicine (as opposed to interpersonal interactions). But with all due respect to the author, having now wasted way too many minutes of my life reading this guide, and as someone who earned honors for the clinical component of every rotation during my clinical year, I feel obliged to point out that much of the advice contained herein is NUTS. BONKERS. DERANGED. I intermittently had to stop myself, stare off into space, and ponder whether it was satire.
A few examples, in no particular order, of what I mean:
1. If your resident asks you to leave not once, but twice, it might be out of respect for your time but it's probably because they have a lot to do and they want to get rid of you. Insisting upon staying isn't going to ingratiate you with them. It's just annoying.
2. If you apologize at the beginning and end of each interaction, people will think you're being sarcastic, because no well-adjusted person does that. Apologize if you're interrupting someone, or if your request might take a few minutes of their time. In other words, apologize if you actually have something to be sorry about. Accordingly, don't apologize if you need to excuse yourself from rounds for an academic commitment -- just state where you're going and why, and then leave.
3. The coffee stuff has been litigated above and goes without saying.
4. One ridiculous idea that permeates this guide is that you are not entitled to any teaching from attendings and residents, and you have to grovel, apologize, and admit you're stupid to get your attending to teach you. No. If you're in a teaching hospital, teaching medical students is literally an expectation of your attending's job. And you are paying $60,000 a year for them to perform that aspect of their job.
Just had to vent, because interspersed with the quality advice in this document is quite a bit of garbage.
Thank you!Hey @Kalydeco, thank you for your post! I will make it clear that I did not plan to use this as a literal step by step guide on how to honor my clinical rotations. My comment to OP was more because I found their notes of their personal experiences really interesting, especially with how they read into/interpreted interactions that they believed helped them perform better on these rotations. I doubt there's a perfect step by step guide out there on how to do well at every rotation but I really liked OP's post because it walked me through their thought process on how they made themselves as useful as possible in their hospital team setting and the sheer absurd dedication it took for OP to do well. I think anybody who reads OP's post should process the advice given and decide for themselves what to use, if any at all. However, it was imho well written with great flow and fun to read so I enjoyed every page of it.
This caught my attention.
JMO - you mean Australian internship?
Australian internships and any residency terms start in January. Have you started working?
So, what are you going to do when you match in the US?
You think I'm looking for advice?
Or you prefer not to answer the question, despite kinda volunteering the information already.
have you matched or not in the US, oh Australian JMO?
What is it that you think I'm asking?
You've done what i'm assuming you have already done.
Might I just point out that you entitled your personal experiences as a 3.5 year medical student as Pearls of Wisdom?
Again, I appreciate your Joel Osteen-like aphorisms, but some of them really do come across as quite odd, as your other colleagues have mentioned above. I'm only highlighting this because any medical student who followed all of this advice would probably appear odd as well.
I don't know why more people haven't mentioned the cringey responses to "you can go home, it's 10pm". Most residents really aren't testing you and really care about you having time to study for the shelf.
I can't even begin to talk about the tragedies of students offering to stay later who bomb the shelf. This isn't 1980 where your third year grade only comes down to being on the floors. Grades now have all this other crap attached + a shelf/osce grade.
I don't know why more people haven't mentioned the cringey responses to "you can go home, it's 10pm". Most residents really aren't testing you and really care about you having time to study for the shelf.
I can't even begin to talk about the tragedies of students offering to stay later who bomb the shelf. This isn't 1980 where your third year grade only comes down to being on the floors. Grades now have all this other crap attached + a shelf/osce grade.
Look, if I tell a student to go home, it's probably because they are starting to get on my nerves. I really don't care about getting them study time; I don't micromanage their day and expect them to look stuff up and study during down time. This whole "late students fail the shelf" stuff is garbage. I've never seen a student who stayed late and worked hard fail the rotation, but I have seen the ones who are obsessed with studying to the point of barely being present or memorable fail. Being around to see and examine patients gives them knowledge, but if they aren't paying attention and are just thinking about how they have to study, they've missed out on the point of being there in the first place.
many other excellent threads on SDN
Look, if I tell a student to go home, it's probably because they are starting to get on my nerves. I really don't care about getting them study time; I don't micromanage their day and expect them to look stuff up and study during down time. This whole "late students fail the shelf" stuff is garbage. I've never seen a student who stayed late and worked hard fail the rotation, but I have seen the ones who are obsessed with studying to the point of barely being present or memorable fail. Being around to see and examine patients gives them knowledge, but if they aren't paying attention and are just thinking about how they have to study, they've missed out on the point of being there in the first place.
After finishing med school I randomly started writing about my experiences.
Thanks for sharing. Your command of the English language is impressive. English is my second language and I noticed immediately that your utilization was not that of an American. Additionally your interpersonal skills are, by today's USA standards, foreign and threatening to Americans. Of course you would receive negative reactions to your suggestions on this forum - you are asking Americans to act civil, deferential and focus on the ultimate goal of getting ahead. Instead we continually read from Americans how "unfair" life is in their medical education. Ever since social media was launched, empathy has plummeted in our culture. We are the poorer for it and you offer a more authentic way for a greater good: your goals and harmony in the work place.
The section entitled "why of course you do" was breathtaking. It was brilliant and completely in synch with my own culture (Latin American). I have found having that type of "go get 'em" disposition invaluable in the workplace especially when you are junior and need to learn from those above you. Excellent points in this section.
Buying coffee for superiors or collaterals? Absolutely. If done correctly it will get you far. Coffee is a staple in my culture and people use coffee as an excuse to gather, share and bond. You essentially used a cultural device to disarm your peers, earn face time and gather much fruit. It worked. Your suggestions make some Americans uncomfortable because it would entail their letting go of their "connecting" with others online and focus on others. Shedding a bright light on darkness will always cause the demons to howl. keep doing it.
I found your section "Begin and end every interaction with an apology" striking. It reminded me of a DON in a small hospital where I worked as a teenager back in the 1970s. Though she had the title and the experience, she apologized a great deal. Everyone loved her. It was so disarming and self-effacing, it was difficult to not feel comfortable around her. Though I was the immigrant in her hospital, she made me feel relaxed and went out of her way to teach me sterile technique, CPR, basic ER protocols, how to set a cast and encouraged me to jump in the fray of things in the ER precisely because I could translate Spanish - English conversations between Hispanic patients and White Anglo physicians and nurses. In short, your/her approach opens doors. Americans aren't interested in hustling to open doors. As mentioned by others on this forum, they expect offers to be given to them by virtue of just being.
America Magazine, an intellectual Jesuit publication by the Jesuits of the USA, recently published an article that applies
I have to completely agree with the summary you provided in the recapitulation.
“I’m a really tough grader and have failed students and residents before. Everything you’ve been doing, just keep doing exactly that. Having you on board was like having an extra member of faculty. If you ever want to work here as an intern I will write you a top evaluation.”
Touché. It is not the MD Degree that opens the doors or the Step 1/2 CK Scores, nor the ERAS matching, but rather going out of your way to sell yourself face to face to decision makers, and let them know you are different. As your "consultant" stated, you earned high marks and a vote of confidence from someone who rarely provides such glowing reviews.
Your interpersonal skills are golden. keep writing. And please feel free to share more of them regardless of the arrows that will be shot your way. You're turning heads in the clinical setting while they....just do the minimal and know everything by virtue of just taking up space.
I read your document after I crashed in bed. It was a special gift or grace that I relished. Thank you for that.
keep at it.
Happy trails
Thanks for sharing. Your command of the English language is impressive. English is my second language and I noticed immediately that your utilization was not that of an American. Additionally your interpersonal skills are, by today's USA standards, foreign and threatening to Americans. Of course you would receive negative reactions to your suggestions on this forum - you are asking Americans to act civil, deferential and focus on the ultimate goal of getting ahead. Instead we continually read from Americans how "unfair" life is in their medical education. Ever since social media was launched, empathy has plummeted in our culture. We are the poorer for it and you offer a more authentic way for a greater good: your goals and harmony in the work place.
The section entitled "why of course you do" was breathtaking. It was brilliant and completely in synch with my own culture (Latin American). I have found having that type of "go get 'em" disposition invaluable in the workplace especially when you are junior and need to learn from those above you. Excellent points in this section.
Buying coffee for superiors or collaterals? Absolutely. If done correctly it will get you far. Coffee is a staple in my culture and people use coffee as an excuse to gather, share and bond. You essentially used a cultural device to disarm your peers, earn face time and gather much fruit. It worked. Your suggestions make some Americans uncomfortable because it would entail their letting go of their "connecting" with others online and focus on others. Shedding a bright light on darkness will always cause the demons to howl. keep doing it.
I found your section "Begin and end every interaction with an apology" striking. It reminded me of a DON in a small hospital where I worked as a teenager back in the 1970s. Though she had the title and the experience, she apologized a great deal. Everyone loved her. It was so disarming and self-effacing, it was difficult to not feel comfortable around her. Though I was the immigrant in her hospital, she made me feel relaxed and went out of her way to teach me sterile technique, CPR, basic ER protocols, how to set a cast and encouraged me to jump in the fray of things in the ER precisely because I could translate Spanish - English conversations between Hispanic patients and White Anglo physicians and nurses. In short, your/her approach opens doors. Americans aren't interested in hustling to open doors. As mentioned by others on this forum, they expect offers to be given to them by virtue of just being.
America Magazine, an intellectual Jesuit publication by the Jesuits of the USA, recently published an article that applies
I have to completely agree with the summary you provided in the recapitulation.
“I’m a really tough grader and have failed students and residents before. Everything you’ve been doing, just keep doing exactly that. Having you on board was like having an extra member of faculty. If you ever want to work here as an intern I will write you a top evaluation.”
Touché. It is not the MD Degree that opens the doors or the Step 1/2 CK Scores, nor the ERAS matching, but rather going out of your way to sell yourself face to face to decision makers, and let them know you are different. As your "consultant" stated, you earned high marks and a vote of confidence from someone who rarely provides such glowing reviews.
Your interpersonal skills are golden. keep writing. And please feel free to share more of them regardless of the arrows that will be shot your way. You're turning heads in the clinical setting while they....just do the minimal and know everything by virtue of just taking up space.
I read your document after I crashed in bed. It was a special gift or grace that I relished. Thank you for that.
keep at it.
Happy trails
Thank you!...
My impression is that during/after his long career, he probably grew to internalize that the most fulfilling parts of medicine could be consolidated down to merely showing basic consideration for other people on a day-to-day basis.
I am older and have the classic Latina look. I make it a point to engage the "hired help" in the hospital: the techs, the nursing assistants, housekeeping, security officers, etc, most of who are minorities. Yet they have something to offer and many of the White American medical students dont get that. Just a simple exchange of pleasantries or recognizing their mere existence goes a long way. By the time the Attendings come around I have chatted with the staff on the unit, made the rounds with them first, asked them about them, and without fail to pays down the road, even if I am the lofty MD student and they are not. the day flows flawlessly with staff with this approach. The Residents and Fellows understand what I am doing, and most Attendings appreciate the "other directed" approach (to paraphrase Carl Rogers). But it can be difficult to break down a battered wall on a Dept Head Attending and so I just go with it. I am master of my moment and if it turns sour, I have the power to redirect and say, "I'm sorry, may I please...", "I dont want to make your day more difficult, could you tell me where I can get....", etc
Rock upon rock, stone upon stone, you will eventually get what you are seeking with people if you just remember that their favorite preoccupation is them. As long as I need something from them, it makes perfect sense to be other directed.
Works for me in spades. Its called people skills 101.
Saludos from USA!
I think I've learned about 10 new words from this thread.
a few pounds of saltI'm sorry, some of this is way, way over the top. Buying your interns coffee? Apologizing for speaking? Staying until 10pm when you're not on call? Looking at the floor when you answer questions? Don't out dress anyone? Acknowledge that your stupid for asking a question? I'm almost inclined to think you're trolling.
Absolutely none of that in any way makes you a better student or team player. For students actually struggling with the social dynamics on the wards, please take OP with a grain of salt.