Dude, I'm not trying to be mean, but you don't understand marriage (I certainly do not, and you are not being mean). I think you're understanding is skewed because of society's tendency towards a self-centered and liberal life (You think getting married is not a self-centered act? As you said, you are getting a much lasting joy and a fulfilling satisfaction from your wife and child. You are certainly giving something away, but you wouldn't give anything away if you were not going to get the joy, so marriage is as self centered as not getting married. The act of having your own child is a self-centered act since you do it to get the joy. Why wouldn't you and millions of other couples adopt, if you were such an unselfish person who wanted to dedicate himself to the child?) . I don't think you have this figured out as well as you think you do.
You know why the CA divorce rate is so high? Because nobody wants to WORK (How do you know that nobody wants to work here?) any more than they have to. Marriage takes a lot of effort but so does everything that returns a great reward. When either spouse gets tired of putting in that effort they go back to the easy life of pleasing nobody but themselves.
I'm married. I got married at 23. I have a 18mo old son and I'm 27. I have a dozen friends in my dental school class around my age married and with children who would say these same things. I have done a lot in life and I promise there is NOTHING that brings as much lasting joy and fulfilling satisfaction as having a child and a wife who'd do anything for you (without you "forcing you desires" on her). That gives you purpose and reason to live. (Good for you bro, although you are just at the begining. First of all, I said, "why would I want to force my desires on anyone?", meaning that I do not! So if it worked for you, and you get the joy, good for you. The dentist with no investings in the article was saying that he has never had the ability to have some fun in life, since he has been paying for student debt, practice debt, chidren's tuition, and etc, probably including tons of cash in jewelry, so that is why I said, IMO, not getting married and not having children is the way to go in this century, if anyone wants to have the other joys of life, excluding the joy of signing papers and having children. Any couple can be as happy as they are without signing papers, if they truley love each other, and if no one is craving for others' money or power, unless they feel urged to marry due to their religious beliefs or for their desire to have kids)
You using the phrases "sign a contract" and "forcing my desires on anyone (I mean NOT forcing...)" shows that you don't see marriage for what it is(How do you know that you are the one seeing it as what it is?), you see it as confinement and restriction. You think you are "free" if you don't get married? No my friend, you are alone. (Talking about relationships, I have never been alone so far in my life, and it is only going to get better in future once you have more time to spend with the one you love. If marriage helped you get out of lonliness, good for you again. Many people won't need that medicine though.) I hope you find somebody with your attitude but 20 years older. Ask them if they wish they were married. Or just keep telling yourself you can find happiness on your own, keep proving to yourself that you're "strong" enough that you don't need somebody else to make you happy (I never said I don't need somebody to make me happy. My point is you can have one to make you happy without getting married as well. I know many older single men in family and friends who are living peacefully with their mates without ever regretting not getting married. What has worked for you for four years so far, and not worked for many other couples in this era, does not necessarily mean to be a successful path to happiness. Happiness need not necessarily be achieved by marriage.)
Maybe you're scared of commitment, maybe you want a safe life without pain(everyone wants that), I don't know, but "IMO" you need to find a person to love (I agree) and then dedicate yourself to THAT above all else in life (dedication does not come with marriage only), then you'd realize that nothing else matters. Seriously, nothing else matters. (I like the Metallica song).