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Wow, this thread sure is a ****show of irrelevant opinions that have nothing to do with the OP's situation. She already has her kids and her husband, so "leaving the workforce after she has kids" is a moot point, as is any blather about marrying up or down. OP, I went back to college after my divorce, when my youngest kid was 8 and my oldest was 13. I spent five years getting three BS degrees with honors, and am now halfway through an MS in neurobiology, and strongly considering applying to MD/PhD programs. I am re-partnered, and my partner is a med-school-bound 2nd year biochemistry undergrad with two sons; I am largely supporting the family on a graduate scholarship, as well as various TA and RA appointments, until he graduates. A close friend finished her MD program around the time I started school, and had her first baby during her third year. She got the residency she wanted, and did a third year as chief resident, then went into private practice as a primary care physician. She just had her second child last year, the kids are beautifully bonded to her, she's a great mom, and the family is doing fabulously well. Don't let anyone's wishy-washy insecurities and discouragement hold you back from your ambitions; there are risks involved in every endeavor worth doing. Many people have surprisingly negative gut reactions to people who make choices that are different from their own, because they feel like it invalidates their choices, so you can expect to hear a lot of criticism and discouragement. Devote yourself to doing well academically, and find programs that offer financial support to assist with medical school debt. Apply for everything! The best thing about this process is that while I have always been very close with my children, they have also expressed so much pride in me and encouragement for what I'm doing that no matter how discouraged I feel sometimes, especially by social attitudes (just this week a colleague asked me to babysit for him on Friday because his wife is out of town!) my children's admiration and love drives me to keep pushing forward to accomplish my goals. Anyway, that was a really long-winded way of saying that you can definitely do this, and your children not only won't suffer but there is research that strongly indicates that your successful pursuit of your goals will result in them, too, pursuing higher ambitions.